What people say?
I do not remember, people being so vocal when I was pregnant with my son. Maybe because I was commuting back and forth from Philly to NY and people could really care less.
This go round, I'm assuming because of my size... people and I'm talking strangers can't help but say something to me. I've heard anything from, " Any minute, right?" "Are you having twins?" "When are you due?" "You're carrying like me and I had twins" and so on. This one lady at the post office over heard me talking to the person who was working there and asked if I needed a ride. I appreciate her offer, but I'm not about to get in the car with a complete stranger. I guess people just want to help?
I've been told I look good, so it's not like I was in distress or even disheveled, lol. I guess people can some what understand if they've ever been pregnant, that at 7.5 months, I'm as big or bigger than they were at 9 months. People who I've never met say I'm small, people who I see every day, say I'm big. Go figure.
This cashier at a store I was in, asked if I was drinking anything good. I told her water, because that's what I had in my cup at the time. She then said I should drink banana milk, so I proceeded to ask what that was and she said something like a banana milk shake and that it would be good for the babies and make them gain weight. This same lady didn't make me wait in the line and told her co workers I was having triplets. As I was finishing up, she asked if I needed any help with my stuff to the car, which was a nice gesture, because I did, but then she asked for a hug...at this point, I felt some what obligated, so I leaned in for a quick squeeze, lol.
People always ask if I have any other children and then the next question is, what the sex of the babies which is usually closely followed by what are their names. That's always followed by, do multiples run in your family or even if my pregnancy was IVF (In Vitro Fertilization). I'm not sure if I'd be offended if we did go the IVF route, but twins do run in my family, so I end up being honest and answer the questions when asked. The doctors did mention that natural triplets do a lot better than IVF triplets, during the pregnancy and after, so thats a blessing. The third, but most favorite response is "God has blessed you". I do believe He has. God clearly has a plan that is bigger than our own, so we've embraced and accepted the blessing (and challenge) with open arms. God wouldn't put anything on you, that he didn't think you couldn't handle right?
On that note, I'm sure it's only the beginning of me dealing with people's comments, questions and opinions. Being a multiple has prepared me some for silly comments I heard growing up as a twin. It's something I'll be able to pass onto my daughters and hopefully be able to relate when it happens to them. Teaching them to have each others back, like I was taught, will be key!
~ Truly Karae
